A closeted gay teenager revealed on Reddit that he found gay dating app Grindr on his homophobic dad’s phone.

The user decidinginbetween posted in the subreddit r/askgaybros about his dilemma:

“Found out that my “Homophobe” dad has Grindr on his iPhone when he asked me to go fetch it from the car. I am still closeted (denial/curious) so i know what Grindr is, even though i don’t have it myself. This makes it so much more confusing for me.”

In the comments, the teen mentioned that his parents are still together and that he hoped to tread carefully because he didn’t want to hurt his family.

He also feared his dad had downloaded the app to catch him in the act.

There were some helpful responses from those who read it.

“My dad was extremely homophobic before I came out to him when I was 18,”atomicpunksf replied. “He ended up doing a total 180 after going to therapy and eventually became the president of our local PFLAG chapter for a while. He later told me that he was bisexual and admitted that his homophobia was due to his own self hatred around being bisexual.”

“A closeted married guy on Grindr might have some intense homophobia going on that he could take out on the queer kid in his care,” jaycatt7 warned. “Tread carefully.”

What a twisted tale.

There was an update not too long after:

“Hi all, appreciate all the kind words of help and encouragement. I don’t know how to explain it in details though, but TLDR: Dad stood in denial and went on the defensive, even tried to question my own sexuality. Mom still does not know and that pains me. I guess he would still be that closeted homophobe and I; that closeted homo who is too shit to do more. Maybe all of this is just in my head. Maybe i am just thinking too much.”

No update since but we’re interested to see what may happen.