LGBT dating in Australia is surprisingly similar to dating in Ireland
A quick tour of the LGBT Dating Scene in Australia
An Australian census conducted in 2012 revealed that a whopping 67,316 Irish people are living Down Under (with an additional few thousand having emigrated in the past 3 years). Strewth! With that in mind, here’s our uniquely Irish guide to the Aussie dating scene.
The dating scene in Australia is remarkably similar to the dating scene in Ireland. Insider Guides explains that most likely you’ll likely know the person before you date them from work or school:
“The first time you hang out, it’s probably not on a formal date. One of you might suggest going out with a group of friends, or choose something that you both have a mutual interest in.
“From there, if you both enjoy the relationship, you’ll start seeing more and more of each other.”
And while hooking-up with people has been made very easy with the introduction of smartphone apps, finding a connection with even the slightest bit of depth can be difficult. But don’t despair – there is still hope!
The key to dating successfuly in Australia is understanding the dating scene and making it work in your favour.
Hook Ups Are Easy…Really Easy
Finding someone to enjoy a night of passion with is incredibly easy to do in Australia but to find a guy or girl to date seriously, it’s important to switch the focus from physical attraction to mental attraction.
Lesbians on the Loose explains: “The women that you want to meet are smart, successful and social. They lead full lives with long days at the office and longer nights working on professional development, school, family or volunteer commitments.”
Consequently, according to LOTL they’re more likely to be online since it is a more efficient use of their time.
To switch the focus to a mutual emotional connection you can try talking and discovering common interests, leading with your cheeky Irish sense of humour or incredible intellect.
This promotes further conversation and encourages a deeper connection from the start. But in order to develop this relationship, you’ve got to be able to meet new people, and online is the way to go.
There Are No Dating Rules
In Australia, people like to do their own thing and rarely follow traditional dating rules. For LGBT Aussies, this is even more true. Very few go on formal dates, instead opting to take part in activities that couples do.
These activities are part of a trial period that gives both parties the opportunity to make up their minds about pursuing something more. Can this cause confusion? Yes, but confusion can be avoided with open communication. A trial period is great, especially for those who have recently gotten out of a serious relationship.
According to dating expert and psychologist Melanie Schilling: “It all comes from a bigger picture observation about the dating culture in Australia or, more to the point, the lack of one, “We don’t have a dating culture here compared to the [US] — where people grew up in the 50s and 60s and went on dates and that’s what they did — we just didn’t do that here.”
The problem goes even further when it comes to dating within the more mature LGBT arena, and dating platform such as Milf-Area are solving a growing need.
Although hooking up with random guys and girls can fulfil certain needs and requires little effort, Australia’s LGBT dating scene does not lack possibilities, chiefly online, so don’t be afraid to take advantage of them.
While meeting people in real life was once considered the easiest way to connect, online dating is now popular enough that ‘meeting someone online’ is an acceptable way to begin a relationship, especially when considering LGBT dating in Australia
To fully take advantage of these possibilities, again, focus on establishing a deeper emotional connection. You can arrange to meet a nice guy or girl for a coffee or beer in a quiet setting that allows a real conversation to take place. Men and women alike will will find a more personal approach refreshing and intriguing.
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