A clip of a video by the popular YouTube channel Jubilee originally posted in August has resurfaced and gay Twitter has a lot to say about it. The video which was posted to the channel which has almost four million subscribers is part of Jubilee’s Spectrum series and is titled ‘Do All Gay Men Think the Same’.
The premise of the video is simple, six gay men line up in the centre of a room, they are read statements and then they change their positions in the room to reflect their opinion on the topic ranging from strongly disagree to strongly agree. However, it is one particular clip from the nine-minute long video that’s been causing a stir.
Currently making the rounds on gay Twitter is the men’s response to the statement: “I prefer to date masculine men”. Three of the six strongly agreed while two somewhat agreed and only one somewhat disagreed with the sentiment. The answers coupled with their responses got gay Twitter pretty heated, with many calling some of the men’s comments misogynistic and the result of internalised homophobia.
Can we really take in what the last guy said. He said he wants ‘equality’ and for that to happen, he wants another masculine male. Really take that in. These gays have internalise homophobia and have the mind frame that because they are masculine, they are better. https://t.co/bXR07xqgOd
— 𝕸𝖎𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖊𝖑 (@boyvirgoo) October 22, 2019
And even worse, he’s claiming femininity is beneath masculinity.
The homophobia is strong with this one. I hope he finds the help he needs to truly accept himself.
— 🏳️🌈DJ🏳️🌈 (@BrotherBexar) October 22, 2019
One user described the entire video as a “hot trifling mess” while others took the opportunity to open a dialogue about what labels like “masc” and “femme” meant to them in relation to their identity.
And many gays wonder why they remain single and alone. I can understand preferences, but it becomes grey and white for me when we stipulate a masc/fem thing holding masc guys to high standards. The whole video is a hot trifling mess. What's sad is lots of gay men are like this.
— Greg P (@P1990Greg) October 22, 2019
The labeling of masculine/feminine is so… simple. Like just be yourself, and admire people for their uniqueness. Say yes to the date with the guy you never imagined for yourself, that's how I met my husband. And 6 years later I'm so thankful I kept an open mind.
— Hoe-prah Winfrey (@LilMissWinfrey) October 22, 2019
Ellis, the one man who selected “somewhat disagree” is receiving praise online for not only calling out the “social pressure” faced by gay men to act more “masculine” and date more “masc men”, but also for his hilarious Office-style stares into the camera as the others were talking.
The look into the camera haha
— Terrah Card (@TerrahCard) October 21, 2019
In the video, Ellis says that he believes that although “there’s a lot of innate attraction of what you like” he also believes that there is “a lot of social pressure that you don’t even realise is happening subconsciously that you’re trained to like.” Bill, who selected “somewhat agree” also agreed with Ellis’ sentiment saying that he felt that his attraction and perception of other men was somewhat warped by his experiences of being bullied for being “feminine” as a child. Overall, the consensus on Twitter was that a mixture of toxic masculinity and internalised homophobia had led to the men’s opinions, rather than their sexual preference alone.
You can watch the full video for yourself here:
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