Today is International Day of Families. A day around the globe to recognise the importance of the family unit.

Families come in all shapes and sizes, and what was once the norm has changed. There are families with one mum or one dad. Children being raised by grandparents or aunts and uncles. Two mums or two dads. Co-parenting and single parenting. There is a whole spectrum of what a family looks like in modern day Ireland. And you would think that in our modern society that all family types would be respected and protected. But sadly that is not the case.

I am a same-sex parent. My wife Audrey and I have two beautiful daughters. Ava is 2 and her sister Arya is 3 months old. We did Reciprocal IVF which means we used Audrey’s eggs to conceive and I carried the babies. It’s also known as ‘Shared Motherhood’. Audrey is their biological parent and I am their birth parent.

As it currently stands, under the Irish law, because I gave birth to the girls, I am seen as their parent and Audrey is seen as a legal stranger. I am married and yet I am viewed as a single parent. We equally brought our children into the world together. We equally are raising them as a family. And yet we are not viewed as a family. If anything happened to me, it’s unclear if Audrey would be ‘next in line’ so to speak.

There is new legislation which is currently going through the final stages in the Seanad- meaning it should be commenced very soon. It will allow for some same-sex couples to both be registered as parents. However, the only couples it will apply to, are female couples who have conceived in an Irish Fertility clinic using an identifiable donor. Everyone else is left out. So those who have gone abroad, those who have used an anonymous or a known donor, those who have done an at home insemination and those who have done Reciprocal IVF like us. All male same-sex couples are left out completely.

Simon Harris, and many others, have knowingly allowed and supported legislation to come in which will split an already marginalised community into two. To put it very simply, this new law is going to cover about half of the LGBT+ community who have families. And for the other half- we won’t meet the criteria to be recognised as a family.

All families need to be protected. Regardless of our sex. Regardless of where and how we conceived. Whether a family was created through Adoption, Surrogacy or Fertility Treatments, they deserve protection and recognition.

When it comes down to it, we are just two parents who love our children more than anything in the world. We are trying to get the same rights as any other family. No more and no less.

You can sign Ranae’s petition which calls for Minister Harris to implement legislation that protects ALL same-sex families and not just those that fit the narrow criteria. You can follow her on Instagram at @ranaevonmeding to be kept up to date with their campaign for equality.